attachment is poor, anticipate and allow for
regressions, as your interaction with your child during
these periods can strengthen the bond between you by
allowing him to fill in gaps that were missed in
separation anxiety is a problem, be particularly careful
to guard against the impulse to be overprotective.
Planned absences can help the child grow accustomed to
it becomes necessary to discipline, make a clear
distinction between the child and the behavior. Be
realistic in your expectations, particularly when
adopting a 2-3 year-old.
your child moves into the preschool and elementary age,
unresolved attachment issues will result in increasing
behavioral difficulties. Techniques that can be helpful
in parenting an older child with attachment issues
include the following:
the concept that behavior results from choices made,
and that they did not simply happen.
specific consequences for specific behaviors, in order
to teach cause and effect.
forced choices for your child to choose from. For
example, he may pick up his toys or leave them on the
floor, in which case they will be taken away for a
specified period of time.
your child that he will be happier if he learned to
control his choices than by trying to control you.
a balance between your empathy for the child?s
struggle and your expectations for change.
disciplining, express empathy for the impact of the
consequence while imposing it, preserving attachment
while maintaining discipline.
with attachment issues can be exhausting for anyone who
has taken on responsibility for their parenting. They
have the capability of finding every button a parent has
and the willingness to push each one of them. When you
have reached the point of feeling ineffective and
discouraged, professional assistance is recommended.
received in part from experience, observation, and other
texts, but also from: